Before my first period came, I’d heard all sorts of things, some sweet, some strange, and some just plain wrong. But the one that really stuck with me was, “Your body is getting rid of dirt.” So when it finally happened, I was weirdly excited. “Yay, I’m being cleaned out!” I thought.
Plot twist? It was all a big fat lie.
But buried in that falsehood was a tiny bit of truth, my body was changing and doing what it’s naturally meant to do. And even though it felt a little scary and a lot confusing, it was also kind of amazing.
If you’re reading this and you’ve heard things too, things that made you nervous or left you totally unsure of what to believe, breathe, girl. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself. Your girl Lizzy B is here to break it down like your fave big sis would.
If you’re a nervous parent reading this, I get it; having the period talk with your daughter can feel intimidating. You might be wondering how to start, what to say, or if she’s ready. But here’s the thing: you’re not alone, and it’s going to be okay. This guide is for you.
We’re going to talk periods, what they are, what to expect, what’s normal, and how to take care of yourself through it all. And hey parents, this one’s for you too. Because supporting your girl means understanding what’s really going on in her body, who else to guard than you.
Let’s dive in, shall we?
So… What’s a Period, Really?
Okay girl, science time, but don’t worry, we’re keeping it cute.. A period (a.k.a. Menstruation, as your mum would likely call it, lol) is part of something called the menstrual cycle, a natural monthly process in the female body. It’s basically your body prepping itself every month just in case it needs to grow a baby. (No pressure and don’t panic, you’re not having one now.)
Each month, your ovaries release a hormone mix that causes the lining of your uterus (called the endometrium) to thicken. It’s like the uterus is decorating a nursery in case a fertilized egg shows up. But when no egg is fertilized, the uterus goes, “Okay, guess we don’t need this,” and it sheds all that lining.
That shedding? That’s your period. It flows out through the vagina and usually lasts about 3 to 7 days.
The color can be red, dark brown, or even kinda rust-colored, and that’s all normal. Period blood isn’t dirty like I heard. It’s not a waste. It’s just your body’s way of renewing itself. Pretty magical when you think about it.
When Does It Usually Start?
Most girls will start their period between the ages of 9 and 15. And that’s totally normal. You might notice your friends already using pads or talking about it in hushed whispers, and it can make you wonder, “When is it going to be my turn?” But girl, your body is on its own clock, and there’s no need to rush.
Before your first period shows up, your body might give you a few hints. You may start growing breasts or notice hair popping up under your arms and around your private area. Sometimes, there’s a clear or white discharge in your underwear; that’s your body saying, “We’re getting ready.” You might even feel a little more emotional than usual. Mood swings? Yeah, they might crash your party. It’s all part of the prep and you’re not crazy.
Globally, the average age for a first period is around 12, but some girls start earlier, some later. Your body isn’t weird, it’s just being yours.
What Does It Feel Like?
Ah, the big question: “What am I going to feel?”
The truth? Everyone experiences it a little differently. Some girls barely feel a thing, while others deal with cramps that make them wonder what is happening.
You might feel a bit bloated, a little cranky, super sleepy, or hungrier than usual. Sometimes, you’ll feel totally fine and just… leak. And other times, you’ll feel all the emotions in one afternoon. It’s wild, but it’s also okay. It’s just your body adjusting to its new rhythm.
And if you’re not sure if what you’re feeling is “normal,” ask someone you trust, your mom, an older sister, even a teacher. Or come back here, your girl Lizzy B’s always got you.
What Should I Use?
Great question, girl, because you’ve got options!
You don’t have to jump straight to tampons. Starting with beginner-friendly products can make this new journey feel a lot more manageable.
Pads are a solid starting point. They’re straightforward: stick one onto your underwear, and you’re set. Just remember to change it every few hours to stay fresh and comfortable.
Now, if pads feel a bit bulky or uncomfortable, there’s another fantastic option: period underwear. Yes, they exist, and yes, they’re amazing. Brands like Savvi Wear offer super cute and highly absorbent period panties designed specifically for teens. These can be worn alone or as a backup with a pad or tampon, giving you that extra peace of mind.
For instance, Savvi Wear’s Menstrual Leakproof Bikini Bottoms are not only stylish but also functional. They can hold up to three regular tampons’ worth of liquid, making them perfect for lighter days or as a backup on heavier ones. Plus, they’re made with a quick-drying bamboo viscose lining and an absorbent four-layer gusset, ensuring you stay comfortable and leak-free.
Tampons and menstrual cups are also great options, but they might be better suited for when you’re more comfortable and familiar with your body.
Here’s my tip to you: put together a little “just in case” pouch for school. Throw in a pad, some wipes, maybe a change of underwear, and a small chocolate bar if you’re feeling fancy. Being prepared is the new cool.
Savvi Wear’s Teen Period Kit offers a comprehensive solution for young individuals navigating their period journey. This kit includes period underwear, swimwear, a waterproof pouch for carrying a change, and a guidebook to provide support and information. It’s all about making your period experience more comfortable and stress-free.
Your Options:
- Period Bikini Briefs: Designed for everyday wear, these are underwear with built-in leakproof protection.
- Period Bikini Bottoms: Specifically designed for swimming, these swimwear pieces offer leakproof protection suitable for water activities.
Both options are made with breathable, quick-dry bamboo viscose lining and an absorbent four-layer gusset, ensuring comfort and leak protection.
Parents, Lean In a Bit
Dear parents, your daughter might roll her eyes when you talk about puberty, but she’s listening, even when she acts like she isn’t. I know I listened too.
Now’s not the time to be awkward or hush-hush about periods. Say the word out loud. Be the calm in her hormonal storm. If she’s scared or shy, show her there’s nothing to fear.
You had the experience, and you know what it feels like.
Keep period supplies in the house like it’s no big deal. Make them as available as cereal. Be that open-door parent who doesn’t flinch at the word “cramp” or “flow.” Your support right now is priceless. And if she cries at a random TikTok? It’s not you. It’s just estrogen doing its thing.
